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Thursday, 6 October 2016

25 Things I've Learnt in 25 Years

It was my birthday at the end of last month! Having reached the ripe old age of 25, half of me feels like I've got my shit together, and the other half kinda feels like I'm not "adulting" quite as well as I should be - I keep thinking back to, say, 10 years ago - I kind of thought I'd have settled down by now, you know? Husband/long-term partner, kid(s), house, dog... HAHAHA.
I mean, I know 25 isn't that old in the grand scheme of things, but actually it's a pretty big milestone - I've moved out of the 16-24 age bracket (sob!) and I'm at that stage where I feel like I'm expected to have my life together... And yet here I am, still living with my parents, desperately trying to get out of overdraft, with no realistic prospect of owning my own home before the age of 30. And you know what? That's okay.
Anyway, that got a bit rambly. The point of this post was to share 25 things I've learnt about life so far. I'm quite sure I've got plenty more to learn (I bloody hope so!) but 25 feels like a good start, so here we go.
#1 Things probably won't go to plan. The ability to wing it is a talent worth developing because life, it turns out, is a pretty big fan of the ol' curveball. Just when you think you've got it sussed... PLOT TWIST!
#2  My brother isn't actually that bad. Yes, he's horrible to live with, but when we're in separate houses (and, ideally, separate counties!) we actually get on pretty well. The problem is we're too similar, so when we spend too long together we tend to clash.
#3 You can't please everyone. And that doesn't matter; as long as you're not hurting anyone and you're doing what you think is best, it'll all work out.
#4 My Mum is pretty much always right. Thankfully, I inherited this trait from her.
#5 There are more important things in life than ironing. I don't believe in ironing. I don't even iron my dress before interviews. I'm only gonna wear it! I guess if you're a man wearing shirts, it's a bit different, but as a woman I see no need to iron anything. Ever.
#6 Learning to drive was just as terrifying as I thought, but well worth it. I delayed learning to drive for almost six years and now I've done it, I really, really wish I'd just grown a pair and done it when I was 17 like everyone else. Yes the first few lessons were hideous. Yes, I still swear loudly and frequently whilst driving. But it's bloody useful to be able to do! I actually posted a few months ago about why I'm so glad I finally got round to driving lessons.
#7 Running isn't as awful as I always thought it would be. When we were younger, running was my brother's "thing"; I hated it on principle without ever really trying it. Fast forward a few years and I'm currently still sulking about my shin splints and the fact I've not run properly in a month. I quite enjoy it! Who knew?
#8 Washing up will never grow on me. I'd rather cook and dry than wash up. I really, really, really hate washing up.
#9 Choosing to study Psychology instead of Maths at A Level was a great idea. The exception to #4. For some reason my Mum really wanted me to do Maths and really didn't want me to do Psychology. So did my head-teacher, come to that. 15-year-old-me's idea of rebellion was ignoring them and doing Psychology anyway. Thanks, 15-year-old-me.
#10 I can function without chocolate. This has been quite a recently-acquired piece of wisdom, as evidenced in my post about what I learnt when I gave up chocolate for Lent earlier this year. I actually stopped eating chocolate again at the end of August with the aim of cutting it out til Christmas!
#11 Me and high heels probably aren't meant to be. I just don't have the balance for them. I also have really big feet so most heels look kinda silly on me anyway.
#12 Boys are dumb. There's not much more to be said there... They're certainly not worth getting upset over, let's leave it at that.
#13 The novelty of learning something new doesn't wear off. Learning new things is actually what I miss most about uni, and why I'm loving my new job so much - it's so good to be learning things again!
#14 A cup of tea makes most things better. And a biscuit to dunk doubles your odds.
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#15 You never know unless you try. Something I've got pretty good at lately is asking myself, "What's the worst that can happen?" and then giving things a go. I'm of the opinion that great things are not in my comfort zone; I need to push myself.
#16 A leather jacket is an excellent investment. I won a Hobbs gift card a couple of years ago and treated myself to a gorgeous leather jacket. It was such a good buy as I wear it pretty much everywhere! It's great for work, nights out and everything in between.
#17 Never depend on my sense of direction. Because I don't have one. And that's putting it nicely.
#18 I'm not someone who regrets things. Or at least, not yet! I tend to take the viewpoint of, if I did what I thought was best at the time, there's nothing I'd change. (Regarding tattoos, I did what made me happy at the time, so ditto.)
#19 I'm utterly tone deaf. Actually, this didn't take anything close to 25 years. I think about three weeks of violin lessons cleared this one up - although I soldiered on for a good four years, without success.
#20 Swimming really helps me clear my head. It's also great for soothing general aches, pains and stiff muscles. And it means cake doesn't count. Everyone's a winner!
#21 Sometimes, the little things in life are the best. Clean sheets. Your favourite biscuits. A new candle. Oranges that peel perfectly. You know the things I mean!
#22 I need to force myself to be organised. I hate mess but I still have this awful habit of letting stuff pile up until it's just ridiculous. I really need to force myself to keep on top of things like filing credit card bills and suchlike.
#23 I should listen to my body. I've got a post coming up on my experiences on the Pill, but basically - I spent seven years on it in misery, one way or another. I should have listened to my body a long time ago. It doesn't work for me. End of.
#24 There's never enough time. This is more because I have a tendency towards letting things expand to fill the available time, than because I actually have too much to do. I'm the worst procrastinator! However it does seem to mean that if I plan more, I get shit done more quickly and therefore can do more...
#25 I can do anything I put my mind to. I'm a pretty determined person, it turns out! It may have taken me three years after graduating to find the job that was "right" for me, but I got there. I've got my Mum to thank for teaching me this from a young age - if you want it bad enough, work hard and you'll get there in the end.

What pearls of wisdom have you picked up over the years? Do you think there's anything missing from my list?



  1. I love reading posts like this and it's lovely that you see so many positives to turning 25! I turn 25 next year and am nowhere near where I thought I would be at that age but that's definitely okay x

    Always, Alice

  2. I'm struggling to think of seven more to add to make up to my 32 years...hmm. I suppose I've learnt that we are all exactly where we are meant to be right now. Even if better days are coming, we need the now to be able to get to them/appreciate them.

    Happy birthday x

  3. I've only been around 22 years, but I definitely agree with you on the ironing! :)

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  4. Great blog idea. I'm the opposite I'd choose washing up over cooking any day.

  5. Great post! Haha Me and high heels also weren't meant to be! I should listen to my body.. I learned this the hard way!
    Really enjoyed this post. xx

  6. I love this post. Especially the one about inheriting always being right from your mum haha. I never thought I would like washing up either untill i had kids! It's the only break I get and its just something I so without thinking. I definitely agree that the little things in life are definitely the best!

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  7. Some very important lessons to have learned! I particularly agree on the pointlessness of ironing, and the value of tea! :D

  8. Happy belated birthday, lovely!! I miss being 25 but hey, things only get better from here on ;)
    I can relate to so many points you mentioned. #3 is the ultimate truth & I love how to explained it. #25 is so motivating!! Well done, girl! <3
    xox Nadia

  9. Fantastic list! For number 22 I recommend the book Spark Joy - I'm 35 but it's finally helped me be a bit more tidy!

  10. A great list - I am getting on for double your age and still haven't learnt a lot of these! Kaz x

  11. Love reading your learnings :) I'm 23 and have only recently discovered how great a cup of tea can be, especially after a tiring day at work. It really does make everything better! Not sure if I can function without chocolate though.

  12. You have learnt some great things in life and everyone has a different path to follow x

  13. The first one is spot on with me! I get so upset with things go 'wrong' but I think it's just my perspective and I have to realise that things rarely go to plan.


  14. Happy birthday :) I also turned 25 last month but do bot feel like I have got my life together at all. We have got a little family and are happy but I did it the wrong way around x

  15. I totally agree with them all, except for 7, 9 and 20! I'm thirty and still don't own a house, and that's ok. Things will come when they come!


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